that of Juul Interesting summary on the family.
According to him, the traditional family and totalitarian established a set of strict limits "determined what children could or could not do", and thus maintaining the power structure underlying the family. For this structure to function had to apply four elements: unity, firmness, punishment and justice.
For traditional families the ideal situation was the lack of conflict. Therefore, when conflicts arose between adults and children, were being blamed for not knowing parents educate their children properly or the children blamed a lack of good manners.
Then came the democratic parentheses , when families sought restructured according to democratic ideals, widely publicized by political ideals. However, the experiment fell short because it did not resolve the conflicts that arise within the family. "In fact, the ideology (...) tends to hinder rather than encourage feelings of family closeness."
To Juul, the key element of health and mental and physical development of children and adults is the familiar process of interaction (family spirit or atmosphere), ie the quality of exchanges between different family members : how they relate to each other and how they feel. "Adults of the family are the sole responsibility the establishment of this atmosphere. They can not delegate this responsibility to their children (...), which does not mean that children should not influence the process of family interaction. Quite the contrary. Exert great influence through his lack of experience in life, its logic, its problems, its sensitivity in times of conflict and lack of experience in its resolution. "
The transition from totalitarian families and democratic families resulted in a series of clashes that injured many people. In general, it was clear that the democratic values \u200b\u200bof limited value when applied to real life.
(to be continued ..) Raquel
